One of the most common things I hear people say about relationships is that we have to make do with the bad times so that we can enjoy the good ones. It’s tough, but it’s worth it. No one is perfect and no relationship is either.
While this may be true for lots of couples, I believe that it’s not the only reality we should settle for. If we have a desire to be involved in an extraordinary relationship moulded after both partners’ combined peculiarities, we should be on the lookout as this type of idiosyncratic connection is achievable.
I think we can find a partner that is uniquely compatible with us with whom we can sustain an absolutely amazing relationship. By uniquely compatible I mean someone that FEELS incredible to be with, every moment of every day. Feels is a keyword as, beyond what our minds can comprehend, uniquely compatible relationships are characterised by an energetic match that ensures an incredible smoothness and flow.
I wouldn’t say it if I didn’t experience it. I was fortunate to meet my uniquely compatible partner and I discovered a new way of living and being in a relationship.
My wish is for more people to know that we don’t need to settle for debilitating relationships when we can improve the quality of our lives by being with someone who is uniquely right for us.
Here are ten amazing things you can experience in a uniquely compatible relationship:
- There are no quarrels.
This one still blows my mind, but it’s true. My partner and I do not engage in quarrels, ever. We just don’t get that initial spark that starts the fire of intense disagreement. We do have differing views and long debates, but we get each other’s point and it’s easy for us to accept it and learn from each other.
- There are no petty feelings exchanged.
You know those awful little moments when we feel anger, jealousy, disapproval or contempt? Every relationship has them and it can sometimes become a struggle to keep them in check. Well, you don’t have to deal with them anymore if you’re with your uniquely compatible partner. One’s own flawed nature might still push through, but love finds a way to overpower those petty traits. It just happens naturally.
- Being together is refreshing.
I have lots of friends who need a “break” from their partner. In order to be with their loved one, they have to be away regularly. This is not the case for my partner and I. It’s mind-blowing, really. Every encounter is meaningful and invigorating.
- You can’t screw up.
In my previous relationships, I would often feel like I said or did the wrong thing and disturbed the fine balance of daily “relationship survival”. However, when my partner and I first started dating, we realised that regardless of what is said or done, the connection is stronger and will keep us happy and thriving. We don’t really stumble at those small roadblocks.
- You feel connected even when you are physically apart.
Usually, if the relationship is rocky, being away from your partner intensifies the lacks and can feel torturous. Not if you’re with the right person. You’ll feel comfortable, safe and happy. You’ll get a surge of energy every time you think about them and it feels as if you’re near them.
- Being with your partner has a healing effect.
In some relationships being with your partner will sometimes give you headaches. That’s when guys go for a beer and ladies do some heavy shopping. But you don’t have to worry about that as spending time with your uniquely compatible partner will boost your health and energy levels.
- Partners are telepathic.
This happens to everyone in long-term relationships after a while, but we’ve had this from the start and have maintained it. It’s really fun and amazing. It becomes the new normal after a while.
- You feel safe.
Life feels safe, you notice signs and synchronicities and things work out effortlessly. This feels very different from usual relationships where due to problems and daily concerns, life may feel unpredictable and gloomy. Not feeling safe with your partner makes you question other facets of life. Being with the right partner will make you trust life.
- You accept and appreciate yourself more.
Being with someone who loves you as you are, respects you no matter what and puts you first despite the odds, will make you see yourself in a brighter light. It takes time, but it’s a wonderful journey of self-discovery.
- You evolve.
Once you experience this kind of unique connection with your partner, you will open up to finding that flow in other areas of your life such as your friendships, schooling, work etc. You may still see the state of many negative things around you, but you know life can be magical, synchronistic and profound which gives you hope and perspective.
Had I read this article some years ago, I would have dismissed as an uninspired fairy tale. No one had ever described their relationship in this way. Now that I know this to be true, I hope to see more people looking for that unique compatibility rather than making choices based on preconceived notions of relationship (un)happiness.