The last time we spoke, I was talking about change. It’s, in fact, one of my favourite topics because I encounter it every day and there is often so much resistance to it, that it makes me want to dig deeper and understand its mechanics.
If there’s one common pattern I see that makes people unhappy, it’s resistance to change. Yet, we change every day. We change with every new piece of information we absorb, with every situation we encounter, with every interaction we have with those around us and we change physically as time goes by.
It’s funny how we resist change in our personal circumstances and behaviour, but we easily expect it from those around us. How many wives out there are expecting their husbands to change so they themselves can be happy? How many employees are waiting for their boss to change and value them more? How many parents are waiting for their children to change the present circumstances, like graduate, get married or pop up some grandchildren?
It’s an illusion to think you will be happy when those around you change. The happy future you are envisioning has a constant: you. If you are not happy now, the whole world can change, you will be the same.
So, start with yourself whenever you feel it’s time for a change. Sometimes, all it takes is a change of attitude for your circumstances to shift magically in your favour. Stop assuming things about others and the world, and start taking charge of your own life. You are the creator and the creation. Believe in your power to shift your reality to a desired one and start taking one small step at a time.
The most damaging thing that you can do is to assume that your life or aspects of it are the way they are because of other people. You are giving your powers away. You are placing yourself in an inferior position and allowing yourself to be lead by other people’s will.
I often think about how God feels when it observes us, with our infinite potentials and powers to be extraordinary, sobbing in a corner about how miserable our life is.
It’s normal to be misguided, it’s understandable to be lost and it’s perfectly fine to give yourself time on your journey. But, start with becoming aware of yourself. You are here. You are gifted. You are able. Nothing can stop you but yourself. Breathe, relax and start making plans about how you want your life to change for the better. Be proactive, while staying open to unexpected turn of events and allowing for things to unfold in their divine time.
“Everything in your life is a reflection of a choice you have made. If you want a different result, make a different choice.”